Norfolk Women's Oral History Project
JEAN E. FRIEDMAN,
In a fifteen-minute interview, a married 50-year-old white male gives a male perspective on issues involving work, sexuality, and sex roles by answering many of the same questions as those posed to female interviewees.
Interviewer: Suzette Smith
Transcribed: 7 September 1984
Interviewer: Age when married?
Interviewer: OK. How. old was Mom when you got married?
Interviewer: What year were you married?
Interviewer: What were you doing at that time? What was your job?
Interviewer: How did you get to the job? What training?
Interviewer: OK. How much were you making a year? Or possibly a week?
Interviewer: What was your take home pay for a week?
Interviewer: Was that considered a lot? Was that considered good pay at that time?
Interviewer: OK. That was when you were married, right? Before you were married, were you saving a lot, or were you spending?
Interviewer: OK. What year did you graduate from high school?
Interviewer: What type college? What was your major?
Interviewer: OK. How long were you single before you got married from high school? How many years? Do you know how many years was that?
Interviewer: OK. What was your father's occupation in the thirties?
Interviewer: OK. Before that, what was he doing?
Interviewer: OK. What was his income?
Interviewer: OK. Did your mom ever work?
Interviewer: What did she do?
Interviewer: OK. What years was. that? Whereabout was that in your family?
Interviewer: OK. About how old were you?
Interviewer: Was her income helping the family or was she just working to keep busy? Was it needed?
Interviewer: What was your religious background? Was it stressed in the home?
Interviewer: What church?
Interviewer: OK. What religion was that?
Interviewer: What ethnic background? Tell me about the family, when they came over here, what did they do?
Interviewer: What did they do? What was their background, where did your father and mother come from?
Interviewer: OK. What address? What is your home address? Do you have any idea? Street?
Interviewer: OK. That's the downtown district, right?
Interviewer: When you were smaller, what type reading material was around the house?
Interviewer: OK. Did your family have a lot of newspapers around at all?
Interviewer: OK. When you were a kid, what type of movies, did the family go?
Interviewer: OK. What type clubs or social things did your Mom and Father get into? Or were they affiliated with anything?
Interviewer: What type of public club.
Interviewer: What was that?
Interviewer: Didn't you have any interest in that?
Interviewer: Oh., it is the only reason you went.
Interviewer: OK, lets see. Tell me about your Mom. How old was she when you were born?
Interviewer: She was 37? How many other children were in the family at that time?
Interviewer: What were their ages in relation to you?
Interviewer: OK. Your father's role. When you were a kid, what was he doing at that time at about 9-10 years of age?
Interviewer: About how old was he?
Interviewer: OK. Umm -- what type, well, what type of family income was there? How did it break down?
Interviewer: How was it divided? Did you guys work to pay the family bills if your father was retired?
Interviewer: OK. Ummm -- when you were younger (this is sort of going to go into why you went into that sort of job) were you just good at it?
Interviewer: At your accounting and your math. Were you just good at it to work at that. Or what?
Interviewer: What type of family relationship? Was it close between the children? Distant? Did you know everybody very well or did you go in different directions?
Interviewer: Did you all have vacations together or
Interviewer: What type of vacations did you take when you were young?
Interviewer: OK. What kind of family activities did you have at home? What did you do as a group? Did you get together as a group?
Interviewer: Was that with your mother and father?
Interviewer: Every night?
Interviewer: OK. Were there any restrictions on you?
Interviewer: OK...lets see. You were active in college. You were kind of busy playing around with the fellas.
Interviewer: (Laughter) OK. What kind of-you belonged to a fraternity--what type?
Interviewer: OK. What did they do? What was their main activity? What did they do?
Interviewer: Did they throw a lot of parties?
Interviewer: OK, lets see.
Interviewer: OK, lets see, when you were dating describe a typical date. What did you do?
Interviewer: OK. Was there a lot of drinking?
Interviewer: OK. What did you expect on a first date? This is boy-girl relationship time. What did you expect? Just a friendly girl? Did you have them blind?
Interviewer: Did you feel guys should be freer with their activities than the girls? Did you have a high opinion in what the girl should be like?
Interviewer: OK. We are going to go on in a whole different section completely. Did you have premarital intercourse with particular girls, not particularly your wife?
Interviewer: OK. Was it limited only to one partner?
Interviewer: OK. What particularly did you expect in your wife, your future wife)on like your wedding night? Did you expect her to be a virgin?
Interviewer: From whom or what source did you learn about sex?
Interviewer: OK. What is your reaction to your first sexual encounter? Were you shocked?
Interviewer: OK. Was the act, pleasant, distasteful, painful, or merely a matter of duty, that sort of
Interviewer: Did you find it at all immoral? You said you went to church a lot.
Interviewer: OK. Well, lets see. Would you have married someone who would have been divorced before, married before?
Interviewer: OK. When you were younger...when you were thinking about getting married, settling down ---
Interviewer: You want to tell me why?
Interviewer: Umm -- did you want to marry an experienced person, like you said she was a virgin, but were you looking for experience older woman type?
Interviewer: Obviously you felt it was alright for men to be wild.
Interviewer: How many years have you been married?
Interviewer: How many children?
Interviewer: They range from--
Interviewer: How many boys and how many girls?
Interviewer: Did you ever consider having a divorce? If so, why not? Why didn't you?
Interviewer: If you don't think that you could but like when the children are all married and grown up would that enter your mind, when there is no dependence on children?
Interviewer: OK. When you and your wife were first married was there any fear of pregnancy, did you want to prevent it?
Interviewer: OK. What was the methods? Was it strictly with doctor supervision?
Male: I don't know.
Interviewer: OK. Was there any friction between you and your wife about having children? Did you want children?
Interviewer: How many years did you wait?
Interviewer: Two years. Did fear of pregnancy interfere with your marital relations?
Interviewer: Did you really wish children at all?
Interviewer: Did your wife wish to have children?
Interviewer: So, she wished to have them right away and you wished to wait?
Interviewer: During your dating years you would obviously be familiar with different techniques, were they doctor supervised on your part or just heresay from friends?
Interviewer: Lets say, did you read articles from doctors who said what type was best or safest to use or did you find out from friends?
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